Have you ever had a relational break? Some hurt or offense or betrayal that ruptured the loving connection you once shared with someone? Dumb question, I know. We’re human, we all have. But what happens next?
In most cases, there are conversations needed to get a clear, full picture of the story from all angles. Forgiveness work is needed on both sides. And then there are the awkward steps of how are we going to move forward from here…
To be frank though, many relationships just stop. They never make it through the above steps of understanding, forgiveness, and moving forward. They just stop.
And. God is revealing a “deeper magic” to me. Or is that IN me?
I am experiencing a break with someone. It was so beautiful until it wasn’t. When I say I love her, I mean it. However, there is just no sign of reconciliation.
So last week I was praying for her, and myself— again. The Lord prompted me to text her. I started listing out excuses about why I couldn’t do that.
Excuses He promptly dismissed. (I hate it when He does that.)
“It doesn’t matter how she feels about or talks about you. You get to move in My love toward her,” He said.
“But—but—but—” I complained…
“You don’t need her permission, approval, or appreciation.
You are free to love.”
Mic drop.
I am free to love. So are you.
No conflict, lack of resolution, or refusal to connect can stop the flow of His love out of us. That’s an inside job.
I determine whether I will let love flow to someone. Regardless of their response.
So I texted her.
I am free to love.
This beautiful person and I may or may not resume relationship this side of heaven. However, the facts remain, we both love Jesus and that makes us sisters. We are eternally connected.
We are part of the same root system of Jesus. There is no cutting off. I love to think that one day in heaven we will be playing together in the River of Life.
I know God is calling me, and probably you too, to live from heaven now. His love is the best thing we can offer to anyone. And we don’t need their permission, approval or appreciation to give it.
Love one another.
Let’s do this.